Adoptive Parent Coaching is here!

I am excited to announce that I am now offering coaching and consultation specifically for Adoptive Parents who have questions and concerns related to parenting adopted children. I get many calls and emails from parents with questions, worries and needing resources...

My 7-year-old son isn’t interested in his adoption story.

QUESTION: We adopted my son at birth and now he is 7-years old. He used to like to hear about his adoption and the day my husband and I brought him home but recently he does not have any interest in hearing his adoption story or talking about adoption. In the past few...

Feeling Felt: The Importance of Adoption Support Groups

My latest article was just published on GoodTherapy.org! Feeling Felt: The Importance of Adoption Support Groups discusses the importance of coming together with others who are walking a similar path.  My colleague and I started AdoptCONNECT and Teen AdoptCONNECT to...

It’s time to start a LifeBook for your child!

Today is a good day to start a Lifebook for your child. It’s ok if they’re 5 months, 5 years or much older. A Lifebook is an important gift you can give to your son or daughter. Lifebooks help connect a child to his or her history and beginning. They...

Here are a few of my favorite adoption books for young children.

ABC, Adoption & Me by Gayle Swift is one of my favorite kids book about adoption. It is written with “true” language and deals with some of the complex feelings related to adoption in an age-appropriate way. This book can certainly be a starting point...

Adoption Memoir “blog tour” – Finding Zoe

This is my first year participating in an adoption memoir blog tour, created by my friend and colleague Lori Holden. Participants were invited to reflect and comment on different questions after reading Finding Zoe, written by Brandi Rarus and Gail Harris. Finding Zoe...

10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know

10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know 10 Things originally appeared on Huffington Post! Click here to view. I was adopted as an infant, during a time when adoption was still shrouded in secrecy. My birthmother kept her pregnancy hidden from her family for nearly seven...

Learn more about the “Ghost Kingdom” in adoption.

Here is another fantastic, informative and important article by Betty Jean Lifton, a trailblazer in the adoption world. It is especially relevant for therapists who work with members of the adoption and foster care communities. As Betty so eloquently states, “It...

AdoptCONNECT Support Groups

Please consider joining one of our AdoptCONNECT or Teen AdoptCONNECT support groups. The mission of AdoptCONNECT is to provide a place for the Adoption and Foster Care community to come together and share stories, ideas and concerns in a safe environment. It is a...

Are You My Mother?

It’s been my experience both personally and professionally that adoptive parents are unaware of how often their child thinks about their birth parents and ancestry. Read my article on this topic published on GoodTherapy.org ~ Are You My Mother? Searching or Not,...

How do we talk to our child about biological siblings?

QUESTION: We are currently matched with a birth mother who has a 1-year old daughter she is raising. Do you have any suggestions about how, and at what age, to discuss this full biological sibling with our adopted child? RESPONSE: Thank you for your thoughtful...

When is a good time to share photos with my child?

QUESTION: My daughter is 12 and my husband and I adopted her at birth. She hasn’t asked us for photos of her birth mom but we have several. We talk about adoption openly in our family and we’re wondering when is the “right” time to share these pictures with her?...

Is this reasonable or potentially more damaging?

QUESTION: I found your site via your fantastic article on HuffPo. Our daughter is about to turn 3, she was adopted at birth, and we have an open adoption (we see her birthmom anywhere from once to four times a month depending on everyone’s schedules; her...

Talking to Your Young Child About Adoption

You and your child each have a unique “life story.” The narratives of your lives weave together both the things that have actually happened to you as well as your internal experience of those events and create the subjective sense of life. According to the most...